Stop the Violence
Domestic Violence Awareness
💜Love DOES NOT Hurt💜
He hits you because he likes you…… He is only pulling your hair because he thinks you are cute…. I know that growing up, I heard this from other people. Back then I thought it was funny, or thought hummmmm… maybe he really does like me if he is pushing me down or pulling my hair….NO...I don’t think we realize how the things we say can negatively impact our later years! Today’s blog is a different type of motivation! this is the motivation to LEAVE! Motivation to find your STRENGH! Motivation to realize and understand your WORTH!!!
I can’t begin to tell you that I know what you’re going through, because I don’t and NO I can’t ask you why are you still there? Because maybe you don’t know, or maybe you do! But that’s your TRIUMPH!! I am not going to ask why you keep going back? Because that’s apart of your story!! I WOULD NOT even dream to speculate on YOUR situation love, because that is YOUR VICTORY!!!
Your story WIL be great!! And just to help you write it I want to say this to you my love…….It’s not going to get better, unless you make it better, It’s not the last time unless you make it the last time, they DID mean it and they will continue, and these gifts, these are just a way to keep you hoping for the best, don’t hope for the best MAKE the best! You are in control of your own life, you have the power to say NO, I’m worth more, I deserve better, and HONEY there is BETTER out there!!.
The below video is a tribute two four BEAUTIFUL hero’s #JerricaSpellman, #MariahFarrow, #DeAnnChampionKing, and #DestineeVirgin who lost their lives to Domestic Violence and Teen Dating Violence in my hometown…NO they are not the same and to call one, the other invalidates it’s significance and importance!
Definition of Domestic Violence: According to the United States Department of Justice Office on Violence Against Women, the definition of domestic violence is a pattern of abusive behavior in any relationship that is used by one partner to gain or maintain control over another intimate partner .
Let’s not get this confused, Although women account for a large portion of domestic violence survivors (97%) there are still men that are survivors too!
Teen dating violence (TDV) is a type of intimate partner violence. It occurs between two people in a close relationship. TDV includes four types of behavior: Physical violence is when a person hurts or tries to hurt a partner by hitting, kicking, or using another type of physical force.-https://www.cdc.gov
“You are not the darkness you endured. You are the light that refused to surrender.” ― John Mark Green
“Never forget that walking away from something unhealthy is brave even if you stumble a little on your way out the door.” ― Unknown
I have not personally experienced your pain, but you remember those three best friends I have??? One of them have and it was the most heart wrenching time ever. I met her in the middle of it, but the stories she told me infuriated 🤬🤬🤬 me and made me cry all at the same time! BUT she kept going back and that just made me even more angry!! I hated him for it and hated her because of it!! But I loved her at the same time! She was my best friend.. and still is! She was able to find the strength to leave!! She knew she was destined for GREATNESS…LIKE YOU…and She is better for it! MUCH BETTER! She is one of the strongest women I know and she did NOT let that time in her life define her! She even got strong enough to CONFRONT her abuser! That story brought tears to my eyes and joy to my heart SHE DID IT boo, and, My Love…. you can too!! I can’t tell you how long it’s going to take, but I can tell you that you will find the strength to take that leap!
I believe that you can get out! you are strong enough to do it! NEVER let anyone tell you that you aren’t and DON’T say that to yourself! I am here for you! You are not alone my love and no matter how hard it is please, please know that you are worth more than that, you are strong, you are fearless, you have the strength that only GOD can give you! Do this for you, and if you have little ones do it for them! And when you think you can’t make it… just know that you can! I am here for you and WE will do this together!!!
“I am not what happened to me, I am what I choose to become.” — Carl Jung
Resources:
www.hopeharbour.org-706-324-3850
National Domestic Violence Hotline
1-800-799-7233
1-800-787-3224 (TTY)
www.thehotline.org
National LGBTQ Institute on Intimate Partner Violence
1-206-568-7777
www.nwnetwork.org
Asian Pacific Institute on Gender-Based Violence
415-568-3315
www.api-gbv.org
Casa de Esperanza: National Latin@ Network of Healthy Families and Communities
651-646-5553
www.casadeesperanza.org
“At any given moment you have the power to say this is not how the story is going to end.” ― Christine Mason Miller
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